Why Decluttering Doesn’t Work

Decluttering Problems by sheholdsdearly.com

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Have you ever worked for days on a space, carefully purging and sorting every last thing?

Then, you color coordinating and making labels like a boss, feeling like it would last forever?

Maybe you even made a few runs to get the perfect organizers for the drawers  and baskets for the shelves, only to see it look like a disaster zone in a few short months?

Story of my life, girlfriend.

By nature, I am an organizer and declutterer.  Some of my earliest memories are of purging my entire room at four years old.  I guess its a kind of therapy for me.

And I know I’m not alone in this.

The problem was that it never stayed pretty for very long and for the life of me I couldn’t figure out why.

Now I have a houseful of kids and they most definitely take their toll on my best organizational aspirations, but the problem was more than that.

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A few years back I read the book The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo and the lightbulb went off.

In the previous years, I was keeping way too many items that I didn’t actually love and trusting that the world’s cutest containers you mask my overabundance of things.

All the things quickly became a burden to manage and I just couldn’t keep up.

The method taught in this book was mostly about how to stop asking so many questions while I was decluttering and why making broad sweeping decisions like “I love all my books” wasn’t enough.

Each item needed to be held quietly in my hands and analyzed on its own.

It was a paradigm shift, to say the least, and took some time to learn how to listen to my honest thoughts on my possessions.

It has been three years since we have set our home up according to the “Kon Marie method”.  The first run through was an intense ten weeks, which I detailed in my 10 Week Decluttering Plan.

I was very glad to be done.  And even more excited to see just how long it would last.

That was three years ago and we are still at a good place.

I must say, it has indeed been life changing.  It’s not to say that things don’t age out or get a little messy, but I can quickly get us back on track with some touch up work.

To quantify this, originally, I spent 14o hours decluttering our entire house.  Since then, I need to spend about 15 hours a year on touch up work.

I will be running through the ten week program again to tie up some loose ends again for 2019, starting this week.  If you want to join me, grab your copy of my ebook and follow along in my Instagram stories.

Let’s do this together!


Aslo, print off a copy of my Decluttering Flowchart before you get started.

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  1. Kim
    January 4, 2019 / 4:19 PM

    And for yet further inspiration, Marie is on Netflix right now :).

    • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
      January 5, 2019 / 8:42 PM

      Yes!!! I was just watching her tonight, so exciting!

  2. Amber
    January 5, 2019 / 5:24 PM

    What about when you get rid of something only to realize two weeks (or one year) later you really wish you had kept that particular thing because the one you had was an older version and they don’t make them like that anymore so you’ll never be able to buy another…. There are so many times I get rid of things in a purging moment and then later kick myself for it….sometimes there IS something to keeping items and storing them. Just sayin’.

    • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
      January 5, 2019 / 8:45 PM

      Amber, you make an excellent point. And, yes, a few times a year, I find that I regret giving something away. But, 95% of the time I am sooo glad to be rid of the mediocre things in our home.

      One idea would be to have a box of things with an “expiration date” on them. When I have done this I just put a piece of masking tape on the item and give it six months to prove how amazing it is.;) I keep this near my donation box and periodically purge from it.

      Hope that helps! xoxo

  3. Tanya Hulbert
    January 5, 2019 / 9:37 PM

    Now I’m very inspired to start going through the house. My hardest obstacle is knowing how much I paid for something and to get rid of it. I guess I need to remember donations are a tax write off and it may bless someone else. I love the idea of simplicity but I sure do enjoy so many things I use for the house and decorating.

    • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
      January 6, 2019 / 8:02 PM

      I understand, I can run into that, as well. It helps to have lots of garage sale items.

  4. Marlene Kuffel
    January 6, 2021 / 9:29 AM

    I wasn’t Able To Follow you, Sarah Although I Pd For The Decluteeing, Had Surgery Wasnt Up To It

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