Waiting For Your Dream House

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Guess what this week is! Sigh. It’s the anniversary of the day we found our dream house.

Yup, it can happen. How about we take a little trip down memory lane and then discuss how to wait for your dream house. Then, take a look at the inherent benefits that one can gain from the struggle of waiting.

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I understand the struggle and will not soon forget it. We looked for ten years for a little piece of land to build a farmhouse and shop on. Little did we know that it would be a renovation project and not a new build.

But, it all worked out.

You can read the full story in Finding Our Way Home.

We actually got so tired of waiting that we unofficially gave up. You know what I mean? We just stopped talking about it.

Then, low and behold, one day I was at my friend’s house and randomly glanced over her fence to see an old, charming farmhouse situated smack dab in the middle of four sprawling acres.

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It was love at first sight! The kids and I drove around to the front to get a better view and wouldn’t you know? There was a “For Sale” sign up!

Everywhere I looked our wishlist was gettting checked off.

Creek? Check.

Driving through apple trees? Check.

Circular driveway? Check.

Detached garage? Check.

Beehives? Seriously, beehives?? Check.

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Clothesline? Check.

The inside was the same way!!

That was a Friday and we bought the place on Monday.

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It has been a wild ride ever since, gutting the place and renovating for the last nine years. We figure every square inch in this place represents one hour of our lives. THAT kind of puts it into perspective.

I hope that our story encourages you, that somedays can happen and dreams can come true.

But, if you are in the middle of the waiting game right now, I have words of wisdom to share with you.

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Time is gift, there are things to be doing right now while you wait.

Waiting For Your Dream House

  1. Take this time to pray.  Pray for God’s will. Pray for His protection, pray for His guidance. Pray for His strength and contentment.
  2. Save your money. My husband and I are Dave Ramsey instructors and believe in debt free living. So, having a decade to prepare was a gift for us. Be strategic while you wait and keep squirreling money away for the when the time comes.
  3. Hone your DIY skills. Go ahead, learn to sew curtains and pillows, try slipcovering and upholstering. Get good at thrifting and painting. You won’t regret learning how to build and repair things on even the tiniest level.
  4. Dream big. My dreams were in the days before Pinterest, but I did have a huge binder with cut outs from home decor magazines! I had so many decisions made in advance that it took a lot of the stress out of the designs when we finally we able to start on the house. And believe me, it is still really stressful. You can check out my Pinterest boards, if you need to get started on ideas.

Now the REALLY encouraging part. What you will gain from this struggle. .

  1. Your wishlist will get crystal clear. I knew within minutes that we had found our place, barring no unforeseen inspection catastrophe. Being so confident in exactly what we wanted helped to make the decision effortless.
  2. You gain more confidence in your design and DIY skills, provided you have been honing them as mentioned above.
  3. Your gratitude will go through the roof! We all have had the experience of needing to wait for something and our joy increasing because of it. A dream is no different, this current house is so much more of a blessing than it would have been without the wait. The reason is because I now have something to contrast the joy to, I will never forget the suffering of the wait and it somehow magnifies the joy.

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So, what about you? Where are you at in this journey? And what have you gained from waiting? Let me know in the comments below, I love to hear your stories!

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  1. Corrie
    April 21, 2019 / 1:03 PM

    This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

    • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
      April 26, 2019 / 11:03 PM

      Thank you, Corrie! I’m so pleased you enjoyed it.

  2. Laura
    April 21, 2019 / 9:39 PM

    This is a very timely message and I really feel like God wanted me to read it. Thank you for sharing.

    • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
      April 26, 2019 / 11:03 PM

      Oh good, bless you, Laura!

  3. Angela
    April 23, 2019 / 7:24 PM

    Thank you for sharing! Our family has been looking for a home for several years as well. Currently staying with family so feeling pressured to find something but the options are depressing.
    Anyway, nice to hear how it all worked out for you guys. Blessings!

    • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
      April 26, 2019 / 11:09 PM

      Bless you, Angela. I’m sorry you are in a tough spot right now. I just stopped and prayed for you. I can’t wait to hear what God has in store for you. xoxo

  4. Charlotte Snodgrass
    April 23, 2019 / 9:28 PM

    Thank you for sharing this. I enjoy your blog, the photos are beautiful and so is your spirit. After we built our dream home a little over a year ago, the state has proposed a new state highway path that would go straight through our home. We will be forced to sell our home to them for fair market value and it will be demolished. We won’t know for 1 to 2 years if they will do the route. I’m learning to trust in God more as I wait. To be more thankful, pray more, and know that whatever happens, He’s still my savior and no one can change this or take it from me. Thanks again for sharing your story. Your home if beautiful!

    • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
      April 26, 2019 / 11:16 PM

      OH Charlotte, how heartbreaking! Praying for you, my dear.

  5. April 28, 2019 / 3:23 AM

    Such a blessing it was right timing. We most likely will never be in the country again, but I believe in a never say never Savior. He knows what I need no matter where we are. Hugs!

    • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
      May 7, 2019 / 9:56 PM

      You just never know, Larissa. Your perspective is spot on! xoxo

  6. May 1, 2019 / 8:04 AM

    Oh, Sarah….what wisdom and insight you have. I started praying for my dream home 41 years ago—well, actually not a “dream” home, just a better house. My washer and dryer are housed in a utility room that can only be accessed from our carport…so I have to go outside to do laundry. The summer months aren’t bad, but it’s the pits in the wintertime. I had big dreams, complete with bound notebooks full of pictures and ideas of what I wanted and needed. Unfortunately, due to a lot of circumstances beyond our control, it never happened. So now I’m 68 years old, and just recently I “trashed” the dream. This was really hard for me because I am and always have been a dreamer. When you face reality and the fact that you have to allow a dream to die, well, it’s emotionally wrenching. I’ve tossed the notebooks, etc. and faced the fact that this house “is what it is.” Life flies by so quickly—yesterday I was 24, and today I’m 68. It’s too late for us, but that doesn’t keep me from being happy for those who do see their dreams come true! You have a lovely home and so happy for you!!!! Wish I could have read a post like yours when I was 24—so encouraging.

    • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
      May 7, 2019 / 10:00 PM

      Bless you, Leslie. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing this. Sometimes when I have an unmet desire in life, I will ask God to take the desire away if He isn’t going to give me what I long for. I had to pray this prayer for a baby a couple of years ago. I know it is never that simple, but I hope helps a little. xoxo. P.S. I would love to help you enjoy the home where you are right now.

      • May 15, 2019 / 11:18 AM

        Thank you for your sweet words. I pray each day to just “accept” the circumstances and to be happy — to be grateful for what I do have and not focus on what I don’t have. And I agree that praying for God to take the desire away is valid. I enjoy your blog so much and always appreciate what you share with your readers. I’m working on decluttering my home right now and just finished a fabulous book that I would recommend to others: Unstuffed by Ruth Soukup.

        • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
          May 17, 2019 / 10:55 PM

          OH, I just love your comment! You have a beautiful heart, I’m so proud of all the work you have done to declutter. Well done!!

  7. May 22, 2019 / 8:27 PM

    Great post. Thank you for sharing your journey.

    • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
      May 28, 2019 / 10:41 PM

      Aww, you are so welcome. Thank you for your kind words!

  8. Marie
    November 26, 2019 / 7:02 PM

    I needed this message SO much.
    Have you heard of GODWINKS? This was mine today. We’ve been looking 5 years casually, 3 years officially.
    Praying and practicing patience and faith.

    • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
      November 26, 2019 / 9:36 PM

      Oh, Marie, bless your heart! I so understand what you are going through, you are in my prayers.

  9. Brandi Bennett
    January 31, 2021 / 6:18 PM

    Hi Sarah,
    I found your blog because my husband and I are brand new empty nesters beginning the journey of redoing an old farmhouse that is on some property my parents bought about 10 years ago. My favorite part is the old well on the back porch that has the date carved into the concrete (1943). Funny thing is… we were on a ten year journey just like you guys. We did the whole suburban neighborhood thing, and I can say I will NEVER live in a POA neighborhood again. Originally, we thought we wanted to be closer to town, and my parent’s place was NOT close to town. Nothing we ever found worked out for us, but in all His timing I now know why… we really were not ready. Plus, He had a different dream He wanted us to have first. We got to go spend 2 years teaching in Eastern Europe. With this beautiful gift my son learned Russian (he graduated from the International school) and we have traveled to almost 30 countries. Needless to say that C-19 put an end to all this, but if we had not listend to His Voice and took the jobs when we did, we would of never of gotten to experience this wonderful opportunity. Now we are back home and ready to nestle in our little dream home with chickens, garden, and a creek in the Arkansas, Ozarks (not too far from where the Red Fern Grows setting was wriiten). I love all your tips and look forward to using some of them in out new homestead. Blessings! Brandi

    • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
      February 3, 2021 / 7:56 PM

      Thank you for sharing, Brandi! What a beautiful story of God’s timing working out perfectly in the end. 🙂

  10. Ann
    March 8, 2021 / 2:50 PM

    Thank you for this encouragement! We’ve been looking seriously for our country home for over a year now. There are days when I just want to give up, but there’s just such a deep yearning for it, I can’t seem to let it go. But I do hear you about praying for the desire to be taken away. I too have wished for a baby as well. And sometimes think it would be much easier if I never had those dreams to begin with. But what’s life without dreams right?! I try to remind myself that many of my dreams have already come true, so therefore this one will too.

  11. Melanie Frederick
    March 24, 2022 / 6:01 PM

    Thank you for your beautiful blog. I so needed to read your words today. I moved from Shreveport Louisiana to San Antonio to be close to my son due to my husband’s failing health. I left my loved home of 30 years built in 1929. Due to the craziness of the current real estate market in Texas, we can’t find our dream home. I am feeling discouraged and at times the feeling of hopelessness creeps in. I am praying for my dream home to show up soon

    • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
      May 9, 2022 / 11:23 AM

      Melanie, Hoping along with you that you find someplace soon! And that wherever you’re staying temporarily satisfies your desire for “home” as you wait!

  12. Kay
    April 30, 2022 / 8:11 PM

    I don’t have 10 years left in me to continue dreaming for the Home I so desire
    I’ve had a couple of homes, things just didn’t turn out so good, now I’m renting a home that I don’t want to be in, it’s an OK home and I’m so grateful for it, but I want my own home again, I want it as i dream of each night
    I want it to be special, to be passed down to my children

    I want to find land to build on, or an old farmhouse would do. I just don’t know where to look anymore … i’m getting older and tired, if only God would hear my prayers

    • Sarah | She Holds Dearly
      May 9, 2022 / 11:15 AM

      Praying the Lord will meet you and satisfy the desires of your heart, Kay! Sometimes how He works looks different than our plans and expectations!

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